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Day four, I took the cone off. She had been so miserable in it, banging into doorframes, refusing food, sitting in the corner like a lampshade with a grudge. She seemed fine. The incision looked clean. I gave her one evening of freedom.

By morning she had opened the top third of it with her tongue and we were back at the vet paying for a repair and starting the ten days again from zero.

That was my spayed cat, Marnie, and the lesson cost about ninety pounds. A cat licks a wound because it feels odd, not because it hurts, and a determined tongue can undo three days of healing in an hour. There is no version of this where they can be trusted, and the vet was not being cautious for the sake of it when she said the full period.

What I would do differently, and did do differently when the second cat was neutered.

Try alternatives to the plastic cone before assuming the cone is the only option. A soft fabric recovery collar suits some cats far better, and there are surgical suits, little stretchy babygro things that cover the belly incision entirely and leave the head free. For a spay, where the wound is on the abdomen, a suit is often the kinder answer and they eat and move normally in it. My vet had them behind the counter and never mentioned them until I asked, which I suspect is common.

If it is a cone, take the food and water bowls off the floor and onto something raised. A cat in a cone cannot get her face into a bowl at floor level, the rim catches, and she gives up rather than persisting. Marnie ate the moment I put her dish on an upturned box. I had spent a day worrying about appetite loss that was entirely a geometry problem.

The confinement matters more than the collar

Jumping is what pulls stitches. Not walking, not stretching, jumping, and specifically the landing. So the ten days are really about a small room with nothing high in it. I used the spare bedroom with the bed pushed against the wall and a low box for the litter tray, and no windowsills reachable from the floor.

This is harder than it sounds because cats are quiet and opportunistic and you will turn around to find her on top of the wardrobe with no memory of how. Close doors. Actually close them, not push them to. Marnie could open a pushed-to door with her shoulder at three kilos.

Switch to paper litter or a dust-free one for the fortnight. Ordinary clay litter throws dust that sticks to a fresh incision and gets pulled inside by movement. My vet suggested shredded paper and it was fine, if unglamorous.

Check the wound twice a day, morning and night, and know what normal looks like. Slightly pink edges, maybe a little bruising that spreads and yellows over a few days, no gap, no discharge, no smell. What sends you back to the vet is any of the following: a gap opening between the edges, anything oozing that is not clear, swelling that grows rather than shrinks, a bad smell, or a wound that is hot to the touch. Also worth a call is a cat who has stopped eating for over a day, is hiding and will not come out at all, or is straining in the tray.

Pain relief is the thing owners quietly skip and should not. Cats do not show pain the way dogs do, and a cat sitting very still and compact is often a cat who hurts. If the vet sent home a few days of liquid painkiller, give all of it on schedule rather than deciding she seems all right. Never give human painkillers. Paracetamol kills cats, and ibuprofen is not far behind.

Keep her in even if she is an outdoor cat and even if she asks. Ten days, no garden. A wound that has been in soil, or a cat who has had a scrap while stitched, is an infection you will be treating for a fortnight. This is the rule people break most often around day six when the cat starts looking bored and normal.

Neutered males are an easier version of the same job. The wound is small, sometimes not even stitched, and healing is faster, but the licking rule and the confinement rule still stand for about a week. Dissolvable stitches mean no removal appointment. Non-dissolvable means a check-up around ten days and you should keep that appointment even if everything looks perfect, because a vet will spot a low-grade problem you would miss.

One more thing about the cone. Pad the rim with a strip of soft tape or a folded bandage if it is rubbing the neck raw, and make sure you can get two fingers under the collar. Too tight is an obvious problem. Too loose is worse, because she gets a paw between the collar and her neck, and once she has done that the whole thing becomes a puzzle she is committed to solving.

Marnie is seven now and the scar is invisible. She still leaves the room if anyone brings a cardboard box in from the car, which I think is unrelated but I am not certain.